You make these changes for YOU. They are not a tactic to win her back.
Yes, you make a good point. I am trying hard to differentiate between what I want to do for myself and what I think I am doing for her.
I am still waiting for the book to arrive, but what I am trying to work out is - if I make a change because I realised that I was doing something in our R which I now see as obvious and regret - for instance, not listening to W, or at least not properly. Is this change for me or her, because in a way it crosses over.
At the end of the day its something she has flagged, but its also something i know is a fault of mine which i wish to improve on for myself. If i do end up with somebody else at the end of this rather than W, i need to make sure I tackle these issues now, so I don't end up in the same place in another 15 years!
Does that make sense at all?
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
