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Re: 3 years later.... shelly_shore #2331474 03/20/13 07:18 PM
Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 847 K keep_going Member
keep_going Member K Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 847	Originally Posted By: shelly_shore When I tell my husband I made a mistake, I am not dismissing my choices or decisions. I am owning them and recognizing they are wrong. I am calling it a "mistake" rather than a "tragic romance" or some such. I am calling a spade a spade. And infidelity is indeed a mistake, a huge ugly mistake. People do make them. I hope you find it in yourself to forgive your wives guys. If they say it's a mistake, it means they love you and want you to love them again. I agree with this ^^^^. I personally think it doesn't matter what you call it - a decision, a mistake, whatever. (Isn't making a wrong decision a mistake anyways?) I think the key is if the cheating spouse realizes the damage done, is remorseful and wants to make things right and fix the marriage. Yet none of that really matters if the betrayed spouse is not willing to forgive... In the end, for some people infidelity is a deal breaker and we each have to look inside and determine if that is our case or not. If it is, then we are better off forgiving and moving on. if it's not, then we forgive and stand in the hopes that our cheating spouse turns around and wants to work on it. Regardless of what we decide, WE will be better off forgiving - it's a gift we give ourselves, not our spouse. Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D

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3 years later....	gman	03/19/13 01:29 PM
Re: 3 years later....	a_man_lost	03/19/13 02:46 PM
Re: 3 years later....	shelly_shore	03/19/13 04:06 PM
Re: 3 years later....	keep_going	03/20/13 07:18 PM
Re: 3 years later....	shelly_shore	03/20/13 10:32 PM
Re: 3 years later....	EngineThatCould	03/22/13 12:04 AM
Re: 3 years later....	EngineThatCould	03/22/13 12:05 AM
Re: 3 years later....	shelly_shore	03/24/13 04:11 PM
Re: 3 years later....	gman	03/27/13 04:41 PM
Re: 3 years later....	too trusting	03/27/13 07:03 PM
Re: 3 years later....	MrBond	03/27/13 07:28 PM
Re: 3 years later....	sandi2	03/28/13 09:25 PM
Re: 3 years later....	Mileus	04/01/13 12:17 PM
Re: 3 years later....	gman	04/02/13 03:22 PM
Re: 3 years later....	MightyJ	04/03/13 03:51 AM
Re: 3 years later....	kenva	04/03/13 08:45 PM
Re: 3 years later....	too trusting	04/04/13 12:29 AM
Re: 3 years later....	darkhair	04/04/13 11:42 AM
Re: 3 years later....	too trusting	04/04/13 05:04 PM
Re: 3 years later....	gman	04/04/13 06:49 PM
Re: 3 years later....	chatterbug	04/04/13 07:22 PM
Re: 3 years later....	DaddyLongShanks	04/04/13 10:59 PM
Re: 3 years later....	kenva	04/05/13 12:51 PM
Re: 3 years later....	gman	04/08/13 02:31 PM
Re: 3 years later....	shelly_shore	04/08/13 10:30 PM
Re: 3 years later....	dbmod	04/13/13 11:43 PM
Re: 3 years later....	cat4554	04/14/13 12:53 PM
Re: 3 years later....	gman	04/22/13 08:47 PM
Re: 3 years later....	lovethehub	04/23/13 03:28 PM
Re: 3 years later....	chatterbug	04/24/13 02:25 PM
Re: 3 years later....	shelly_shore	04/29/13 04:36 PM
Re: 3 years later....	too trusting	04/04/13 05:17 PM
Re: 3 years later....	gman	04/04/13 06:41 PM
Re: 3 years later....	darkhair	03/20/13 10:06 AM

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