The biggest mistake I made while separated from my W was being to available. I gave her no chance to miss me
I think this had a lot to do with my W coming in for the hugs again. When we got a car for D16, W no longer had to come to my house in the evenings to pick up the kids on her weeks (since D16 can just drive over there now), so we saw a LOT less of each other, typically just once or twice a week and even then only briefly. When the hugs stopped I really pulled back and detached and I did it for me. It felt like there was little if any hope for R and I needed to prepare myself for living life without her, and so I did. So it came as a surprise when SHE initiated the hugs. And when she did I made the mistake of reading too much into it which led to a temperature check which as you might predict didn't go like I thought it would. So I reset my expectations to zero, LOL! The hugs and kisses continue, but now I have no expectations about what it means. Pass the patience please
