Is the writing on the wall? Please help! Newbie

[lost'em]

So I have just found out that H, was actually fired! He was not laid off, as he led me to believe. I had a conversation with some people that used work with him, and they all just seem to think that H was lazy? She even commented, that there definitely seems to be a pattern emerging. She said herself, that when things (life/work) become difficult, he seems to want to put his head in the sand, and wait for it to blow over. He is also blaming one person, for his failures at his job. Definitely, similar to him blaming me for the failure of our marriage.

So fast forward, to a few days after our coffee conversation, where he pulled out divorce papers, and tried to get me to sign. While we were together he asked me for a copy of our marriage certificate, which I refused to give him. I also specifically told him, that I would not help him pursue a divorce. From everything that I have read, he needs to do this on his own??
Two days later, he sent me a text asking if I was sure that I wouldn't mind just hand it over? Like I as going to change my mind?! Sometimes, it feels like I am dealing with pouting child, who isn't getting his way! He called me the next day, and left a vm. I am assuming it's about the same thing, I have not bothered to respond to either.

This morning, he sent me another text asking about our cellphone bill, one of the few bills that WE are responsible for. He told me that he gotten another job, but is asking me to be patient with paying the bill (he's already late). He has a new job, but won't have any funds until the end of the month. Really? I am now suppose to be understanding for him?? Super frustrated, and angry. This is definitely, still replay, right? I know that he is still spending time with the OW.

I feel as if, I am in a holding pattern. Waiting for him to file, waiting for him to reconcile. Just waiting. I know that I can can end this myself, but I really would like for our marriage to work. I am coming to terms, that a divorce may be coming my way, but I want to feel as if I did everything that I could to mend this.

Sorry, for the vent, but my friends, are starting to grow tired of the same story from me, but I cannot help it...It's my life, and all of this creeps into my thoughts (even when, I am trying my hardest to detach)