Words my W spoke to me the other day when she brought up the possibility of reconciliation.
I have been lurking around these forums for a little while, but now feeling ready to jump into the pool. I suppose a little background is in order. I am going to try to give the short version, hopefully without missing anything major.
BD was back in December, and I went through the typical phase of begging, pleading etc until DB, and DR. At that point I feel like I really started to get a handle on things. As everyone keeps advising on these boards, life like this definitely moves in super slow motion. Me: have been selfish about making decisions that didn't necessarily coincide with W opinion, especially about career and where we live in relation to that. W: admits to not standing up to it, and enabling the behavior by not giving me a chance to prove if I would choose her over my sometimes poor job choices. Me: bad anger management problem, created tons of tension and hurt feelings Me: definitely was being a poor father by not really connecting with our S5. and letting my anger be the tool to guide our relationship Us: were continuing to have frequent sex, even while emotional relationship was being neglected W: in general suppressing what she felt and putting a band aid on our negative interactions. trying to post shorter for now. More to come.
Me-36 W-31 M-7 S-5 BD Dec/12- things were wrong for awhile, head was in the sand
Seeking means: to have a goal Finding means: to be free, to be receptive, to have no goal
