Also, validation, I'm struggling to understand this and use it, if anyone would be kind enough to give me a few examples
I struggle with this too! DB coach told me yesterday that validation is all about making WAS feel like they can handle their own lives. Showing them we have confidence in their decisions - which is crazy because their decisions ruin families! But I can see the point, no forward progress if the trust isn't rebuilt in our spouses.
I'm in the same boat as you, where our conversations are only about the kids. So how can I be supportive and validate WAH decisions? It's super hard and takes a lot of effort.
Your coffee with W? Did you reach one of your goals and talk about something other than kids?
