I have said similar statements to my H, about that I can see that I was treating him a certain way and can see how he got to the point of wanting to leave and asking for a divorce.
H has said nothing about it, does not agree or disagree...no comments at all even when I am saying a negative things...only thing I get is angry H after telling me it is too late to say these things and making excuses to having one on one conversations, even when I ask S is always here.
It is way to early for us to have these conversations I see.
Something to think about in the conversation with your H, can you take the time to sit down and write down some statements that you might want to say to him that are openended...that he must respond to with more that a yes or no. Not too much pressure on him but at a time when the communication might be going well to ask them.
Also remember not to try to get it all out this time, if this conversation goes well you want to make it to the next one...I pushed H too hard, and we were doing good before, and now I feel like I am back to the beginning again...live and learn.
Also about being in the house to try it out...is that a bad thing...my H has not been in our house very much at all and I like him to come to the house to bring back the memories of it, whether good or bad, they distance themselves to protect themselves, if he is brave enough to try to test out what it is like in the home again...this is a good move, but prepared that he might not be able to handle it.
Good luck, don't know if any of this helps but wanted to give some other ideas.
I need to call today and check on my time with a DB coach...decided to spend the money...thinking we spend a lot of money on other things and this might be the most important things ever to spend the money on...seems like it is going well with you.
