I honestly don't think they realize, in their present state of mind, what divorce truly means. Yes, it ends the marriage, but it also ends whatever relationship you had w/your former spouse, i.e., it's not the cozy, warm and fuzzy life any longer. I think in their minds that lbs will remain friends and do things w/them even after the divorce. They may even go as far as thinking we will forgive them for all of their destructive behaviors and I would venture to bet that they are counting on us and our love for them to continue those friendships. As I have said many times, they expected us to remain right where they left us and most likely counted on our feelings to be the same. Poor souls, never in a million years did they count on any of us moving on w/our lives and those feelings of warm and fuzzy changing into something called "civil" behavior.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
