W hasn't resigned herself to live in a marriage that doesn't make her happy -- in fact when she felt she was there she cheated and asked for divorce. What she resigned herself too is that she feels unworthy and inadequate. She doesn't enjoy sex and doesn't want to. She's not happy with herself but doesn't think it's worthwhile to deal with it.

That's different, it doesn't have anything to do with me or the marriage. It doesn't feel like a prison sentence to her because it's what she's chosen. The door is open and she could walk through it by seeking therapy, but she would rather remain dark and twisty to use her term.

In your situation you feel trapped and unhappy but you don't accept that it is okay for things to be this way and that's how you're different, and in my opinion healthier.

If you leave do you think H would want custody vs visitation? Did that ever come up in your history?

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015