Okay, I took the plunge and went through the list of points. The waiting before the plunge was tough.
Response was a mix of rational and emotional.
o Facade renovation: on hold until I check with realtor if doing this increases the house value more than the cost of the renovation.
o Me keeping house: she thinks it is foolish to keep a large, energy inefficient house like this, especially for just one person. She wants to be paid out by the end of summer or so, which she is not sure I can afford.
o Me sleeping upstairs: denied. She was most emotional here, pointing out how much work she had personally done on the house and how much I am gone (30% of my time is abroad, "gallivanting" in her words), and how resentful she is of my higher income. I felt rather ashamed and yielded on this point.
o family vacation - on hold for the moment, pending more information on possible job for S.
BIL visiting this summer - no problem. Staying with MIL in future - she thought this would be no problem as she and her mom do not get along, that even though we would be divorced my MIL could get back at W by still letting me stay there (I stay there when working in the US).
She repeatedly mentioned D, as if it were a coming reality, what the new owners could do, etc. This was the most painful part. Not sure where to go from here.
I am both relieved but the sitch seems more concretely negative now.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
