[*]Taken her for granted, herself as a person and what she does for us as a family
Easy trap to fall into.
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[*]Made her feel trapped, and untrusted - not entirely convinced on this one, but there are times where i would quiz about where / who she was meeting etc. Or be over protective when out and about.
Might be an effect of the situation now. Several times throughout our R I encouraged my X to get together with friends more often or do some her-activities as I think it's healthy for partners to have SOME seperate activities.Yet around BD she said she was done with me keeping her from her friends. Say what?
Too much quizzing and over protection is not healthy though, and will leave a S feeling untrusted.
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[*]My approach to sex was more of a quick stoke and hope, rather than seducing. And when that failed a sulk. Again ashamed. [/list]
This can be a vicious circle. I read a book which sheds some light on this. I'm pretty sure it was "The Sex-Starved Marriage".
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[list] [*]Panic. Recent event made me panic visibly and wife noticed. Caused confrontation. [*]Talking too much about R. [*]Visible reaction when W mentions D [*]Snooping. W noticed too on occasion.
Why are you snooping? If not for legal reasons I would stop, it causes nothing but anxiety. Either you find nothing, or you find something you don't like which sets you emotions off.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
