I am still waiting for my copy of DR. Will read [*] again tonight, and also 5LL which is started to read at lunch, but find it hard as it seems to talk about improving marriage, which at the moment I find depressing as I don't feel I have that luxury. Wish I had seen most of these books a year ago!
2.4 - sorry you are here and I understand what you are going through. Back in September I felt much like you do now. Panic. One thing I started at that time was a journal of this journey (yes, buckle in for the long haul). I'm glad I've done that. I look at my entries from September compared to now and realize I'm in a much better place, regardless of what happens with W and I
People on this website are great and very helpful and understanding.
Regarding books the ones you have listed have good information. Just remember you will not find a quick remedy in any of these books. Just useful information for yourself to learn and grow. I would still recommend 5LL. [*] One thing for me when comparing the [*] books to DR and this website - I believe DR and this website are much better at impressing that it is a long duration. It will not get fixed overnight.
How are you for a support network? People you can talk to confidentially (and not report back to your wife). People that will be compassionate towards you. I have 4 people I am able to talk with periodically and it is very helpful. Also, I'm in IC and that is good. Not only is it support but also helps me work on communications (which I know I need to improve).
