Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[mamabird]

Thanks SS -
I really am trying to be more thoughtful and less defensive - I know it's an issue for me. It's come up in therapy a few times too. Combined with the lousy communication between me and my H, it's no wonder we ended up in that spot.

I'm happy to report that things seem to be getting better. Last week's MC session was very hard and left us both a little drained, but I think it inspired us to work harder and we had a good week. H and I attended our kids' school's fundraiser which is a fancy evening. H enjoyed socializing with his friends but I told him at the end of the night that I felt a little abandoned and he seemed to understand that. I think he is working hard at listening to me without taking what I am saying personally and learning that he is not responsible for my happiness. This has been an issue for us since our first date.

As I said, I have been working on being less defensive. Today in MC we discussed trying to stay more positive or seeing the bigger picture. I tend to dwell on the negative and I think that's a bummer for H. It's a better habit for me to get into as well. H also is getting into a space where he can accept that I am working to make changes, so I hope the upswing continues for a while.

I've also finally found some GAL that I really am enjoying - I've started playing around with succulent plants which are very pretty and easy to grow. I think this is going to be a very good hobby for me and I'm very excited about it. It doesn't have the social aspect but that is ok.