If you can sext get & ML and not have any expectations, then do it. One of my H's complaints is that I had seemed less into sex & not attracted to him. When he was still living here I was ok with having sex & sexting. He even tried a few times since he moved.
He now knows I'm very attracted to him, but then for me and my POM, I needed to set that boundary. It's all a personal choice.
Emotions are just that. Feel them, scream, yell, post here...but don't show them to W. my H has no clue I spent Saturday & Sunday in turmoil. All he sees is a happy, confident T. If I do get teary dropping off my kids and he asks if I'm ok, I say "yep, you know. It's hard to leave them until the silence kicks in :)"
You can do this!!! GAL big time!
to be honest, another fear is if I stop sexting and having sex, it will open the door "wider" for her to get it elsewhere
I had felt that too. It's about me and what is good for me. My H is having sex with another woman. I will not sleep with another man because of that. If that opens the door wide enough for your W to go elsewhere, you deserve better. And it's not a love you should miss. I tell myself this everytime I have a thought like that. I deserve more than the scraps he can give. So, if this "makes" him leave, so be it. I deserve better.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
