SA, I agree. I think the present is a good idea. But like Blake said, do not profess your undying love to her.
Back to an earlier post.... The outsider wouldn't know that anything was different in my M either. We don't fight, we talk and even recently we have been very friendly. But, W does not show any real love actions. Everyone says that being friends is a great first step to R but I just hope we don't get stuck there.
Good luck with the birthday and the race.
M 37 W 36 T22 M14 D8 D4 8/2012 distanced BD 11/2012 (likely wants D. Feelings have changed.) W move out date: June 8th.