"You are right and seem to have a good handle on your sitch, I am happy for you."
Thanks JP. But I too have a long long way to go. I was where you are two months ago. I was all over the place, didn't work, wasnt eating. Weird thing is I want like that for a month or so after BD, then it hit me and I was in a serious downward spiral for a week or so towards the end of January. I started reading a lot of threads and began posting myself in Feb. once I really started applying what some of these old timers are saying is wen things began to improve. I still have more "oh crap" moments every once in a while, but with each mistake I made it turned out exactly like some of these guys said it will. I began to detach and GAL for me, not for W. when that truly happened I felt better and wouldn't you know things with W have gotten better. We still aren't "working on it", but interaction with me is totally different. JP, I've followed your sitch. You are stronger person than you are giving yourself credit for. Stay active! Don't sit around thinking. Go for a walk, do stuff with daughters, go to a park, movie, anything!!! But do not sit around or lay around
sit or lay around are big issues for me at times. I feel so tired. Thank you for your words and encouragement.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
