hey labug, nope, no evidence. Just basic self-defense feelings. He left when we were gone & it felt like a huge violation to know he had 2 weeks to take his time moving out his belongings (he really didn't take that much), to copy files off the computer & change all the passwords to accounts, I'm going to be gun shy in the trust department for awhile. But I feel better about my decision today.
Spoke w/ DB coach this morning and she said my email to him was a good thing, she called it an "ah ha letter". And that in sending the email, most WAH don't reply so it's a bonus mine did. Also about him coming over tonight while I'm gone, DB coach said it'll have an extra impact since he's been unwelcome for 4+ months.
We've been texting more in the past 72 hours than in the previous 72 days. Communication is a plus... it also opens my heart a little and I can see getting shut down again and being really crushed. Have to be open to risk to take on DB. No expectations is a killer.
I was explaining to DB coach that I know a lot of details WAH doesn't KNOW I know and it feels like it will always be a barrier. She said I'll have to find an opportunity to eventually tell him "I've been aware of xxx & xxx for quite awhile now, and in light of what I've learned about myself and us, I can understand why you would have done that". That's going to be very difficult! Has anyone here had to take that step?
Overall feeling good, keeping a positive frame of mind. Another pearl from DB coach - Be intentional, not impulsive. I really liked the reminder of living with intent - for all us control freaks out there - living with intent will mean controlling and making conscience choices. Right in my wheelhouse, controlling choices.
