25yearsmlc

[25yearsmlc]

That is curious, that you only feel this way in regards to your Son, and not your Daughters.

The curious side would be, how much do you see your Husband in your Son ???

I'm glad that you are willing to step aside, and not let this drain you.

Don't want to see you posting as a WAS ya know...

Thanks for the Blue, it helps....


Good question. I pondered it after I wrote that.

The thing is that it's Son who is raising the issues to me so much. He has not lived here for 8 years so maybe he's just not used to seeing his dad this way, or in a new way,

OR maybe he now feels old enough to comment. (I think that's it).

So it's him that is "in my face" about it all. The girls seem to have accepted things more (maybe?) and have lived with this as it is, for longer.

Or maybe they don't want to confront/resolve conflict or don't believe it can be done.

but son on almost a daily basis, raises his concerns to me so that I feel moved to DO something. I'm not complaining, ...well maybe I am.

I think it's healthy for him to raise the issues but it affects our R b/c he is raising the issues, you know? I'm not mad at him, btw. I'm just interacting with him more about 'real stuff" than before. And more than with the girls.

he's pushing the issues and wants to FIX things...in that sense he may be like his dad. But I do not NOW see him as very much like his dad.

Does that answer it?

And btw, the meeting is in 2 hours. NOW d15 does NOT want to go, (SIGH) so we'll see what happens.

I'll bring a book and let them all hash out whatever it is...