thanks...I agree with your take on the forgiveness article but I also think she has some points. Seems to me it does apply more to those who reconcile. Otherwise, for ME, letting go and forgiving is freedom for ME...so an apology is not crucial. Plus they are RARE~
but yes, of course, to reconcile you'd need change, reassurances, and more. An apology is part of all that.
My T recently said "There are 2 types of apologies. The 'sack cloth and ashes" apology, in which the person REALLY sees how they were wrong, where they erred and how it hurt the injured party. They are sorry."
"The other type is the 'Impact apology' wherein the offending party apologizes... for the other party being hurt...not b/c THEY hurt them, not b/c THEY ERRED or wronged the injured party,
but b/c the other party was impacted. Like too bad it "happened"....
the 2nd type of "impact apology" is not so useful in life.
But I "get" that distinction. Makes sense for me.
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