Oh, we can all have an opinion, lol. Ours are the same, crappy & selfish are words to discribe H.

But, I can only live as a victim for so long. It makes me do grateful for my years in AA & my new journey in ala-non. I can have some (some days, none) compassion for H. But, I'm the one who needs boundaries. And if I waited around for him to protect my heart, he'd still be living here doing the same thing each day. When I get real healthy, (this is rare at this stage) he is doing the same thing to OW. He isn't caring for anyone's heart.

As Labug says, boundaries are my friend.

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D