Luke you are expanding this thing into something larger to justify procrastinating. None of the house details need to be worked out in your first conversation. Your first conversation is just statement of 3 simple facts:

1. You don't want to renovate and won't spend the money

2. You don't want to sell and want to continue living there

3. You are going to sleep upstairs when the kids are home

End of discussion. Everything else can wait, let's get W to understand these three first.

Will you do that? Don't make it a bigger issue in order to then postpone and avoid it. Just tell her those three things and nothing more.

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015