My opinion, let it be, focus on the 2 of you, the OW is the past...and also I think this is something for just the 2 of you, or with a MC, not a group/retreat setting...I would be quite annoyed and shutdown if blind-sided by that in a group setting.

Let the questions wait until you are further down the R road. That's what I am doing in my sitch...focusing on rebuilding communication and connection with W...the details of OMs can wait until "we" are stronger. And W will probably then be more open to talking about, know what I mean?

Just my 2.5 cents... smile
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