Is it great that your W may, may...be seeing some reality. Sure, it might be. Just know 5 minutes later she could be completely back in the opposite place. A friend of mine spoke with H the other day. She said he seemed also desperate and lost and said that I had changed so much and blah blah. I haven't even mentioned it here in my sitch. Why? Because it changes nothing. I still work on me. I'm still detached from H. Oh, we know I have my moments, but for the most part I just don't take too much of what H does to heart anymore. He is confused, scared & has no idea what he wants.
That is what everyone is telling you to focus on. It seems you see it to a certain extent, but just take some action. Stop trying to get W to see anything. When my H talks about hating himself and feeling insane, I Just listen. I validate. I don't point out that maybe if he stopped cheating on me and trying to romance both of us, he would like himself. He knows it.
At the end of the day, who do I want to be. You need to start asking yourself that. No one is perfect.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
