Thanks Karen! Had I been deployed, it may have changed the sitch between my wife and I. I'm stationed at an accompanied location where she could have joined me. However, I was thinking about her new job after graduating nursing school and the kids' school stability. So I chose to have them stay up north of me (1200 mi) while I finish my service and retire. I will keep the coaching in mind, however my spouse is against counseling unless it was geared to help us move forward and learn to become friends after divorce.
