^^^^Exactly. SP you seem to take 2 steps forward and 5 steps back and are making almost no meaningful progress at all.
I know this isn't easy; I've been in your shoes. Believe me, bringing up ANY aspect of the R will do you no good if you are trying to reconcile. There may come a time when you realize you no longer want to reconcile - then you can bring it up all you want. Go back and re-read DR again.
You're going to have to get past the desire to talk about dating, R, whatever and get out and GAL - for yourself! Identify those traits that need to be fixed and do it. Stop worrying about your W or the R - you can't do anything about either one right now so work on yourself.
