I'm sorry to read that things have been going so poorly for you and your H.
How many counseling sessions did you have? What kind of advice did Laura give you? Have you put any of it to use?
Each time I have spoken with my coach I have felt like I have gotten something positive out of it. Like it has been gas in my tank.
Is there anything that you think could put the brakes on this runaway train?
Laurie was great - but at the time I spoke with her I already felt it was becoming time to file and we discussed dealing with that sort of thing calmly etc. She does give great advice.
I am going to pay my retainer at the law office today. Hoping this all goes smoothly now.
What I'm struggling with right now is, I don't know how to say it, I'm not sure she's the 'OW' but there is a possibility. I just don't know to what extent, but betting more than emotional.
I mentioned her earlier in my posts. She's a girl that is divorced that my H has been friends with for what he says is 10 years. While she was married her H didn't like her talking to my H. But when they got divorced obviously everything was fair game and I didn't matter.
Those 2 texted constantly, a source of many of H and I's battles over the last year. This girl and her friends are extrememly rude to me, yet H always saw their side and said I was rude (because I didn't go takl to them if I was already sitting somewhere and gave her dirty looks for hanging around H al night - yes, I'll admit to that!) But anyway, that's beside the point.
A few posts ago I said how I thought she was going out of town with him for an event. 95% sure that happened due to a post on her FB page. She doesn't post much there these days, which leads me to believe she's hiding something.
Then H went out of town for a concert last Friday. With another couple. Which the guy from other couple posted on her wall that it was great hanging out with her. And she replied Saturday making it known that she was there all night.
It just annoys me that they think I'm ignorant. And the fact that H still tries to put crap on me. Saying I only changed my fb status to single to make myself feel better about talking with other guys. Um, you have been talking to other women for at least over a year. New friends, old friends doens't matter!
And I know that they were all at an event Saturday night and he had my D with him. That REALLY ticks me off.
We will have verbage in the divorce papers regarding opposite sex spending the night but that's about all you can do. I was going to suggest to him that we be civil about that sort of thing to each other and discuss it together before letting her meet anyone we might be dating. But in this case he will say she's just a friend. Well, I've heard that before.
play this game...when you see him try to... -act as if you are doing great -make eye contact (don't look at his left hand) -walk away as if you were busy doing something
What are his love languages?
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
