azguy, I ordered the book you suggested. Thanks FS for the support!
I had to make a decision and decided to send a 'yeah sure' reply to H. So he'll come over tonight while I'm gone. I am not comfortable with it, but I can recognize my reasons are probably not sound.
I worry that he will try to make himself too comfortable at home and will think it's an easy way back. I worry that he's basically auditioning his home and family to see how it feels to determine if he'll want to open his heart in the future. I'm scared that he'll try to look at my finances to see how I'm coping and how he can stiff me.
But at the end of the day, I have nothing to hide. My worries are probably unfounded and he just simply wants to spend time with his girls. I didn't expect them to be so opposed, he doesn't really know the harsh welcome he'll receive but that's between him & his dds.
