Ah....the eye rolling is always a p*ss off !! as is the sigh, makes me want to smack someone when I am in that kind of mood myself....
I think if you can see the need and identify at that moment, good...you can switch gears, muffle behaviours, and as for me, just ignore my behaviour. I think everyone's relationship is different. Addressing it afterwards is not effective simply because it's done. At least that is my thinking. If I apologize, then I am aware that my behaviour was crappy but have no desire to revisit.
Meet on common ground at time of remark? Sure. Like a laugh and "Geez spouse, I know what you mean, always a hassle with blah blah" or if one is at that point "That remark was hurtful, it's a stressful situation, but I did not warrant that remark"
For me, as I said, ignoring my little rude azz works best, I always felt badly and aware of my behaviour much more quickly when this occurred. Anything else would just cause me to justify my behaviour with more excuses and rudeness. That's my personality though....
