Well thank you, I hardly feel as though patience has been used to describe me often. And it certainly wasn't me when I was dealing with what you are ( or very similar).
I CHOSE to become patient, and I know that you can do the same.
The people that are posting to you, have all been where you are. And even though they appear to have it mostly figured out, WE all started doing the things that you are doing.
The mindreading and over thinking, over anal-izing (yes, I meant to spell it that way).
We were all that way until we chose to be different , adn not to let the actions of our wayward spouses define how we wanted to act.
That choice is yours to make as well, and we are all here to help you get there...
The only thing in the way, is you have to chose to do that work...
And when you are ready, I will point you back to your first couple threads, and see how much support that you have here....
I'm not going to speak for PON here....
The frustrations....???
I would assume that you really strike some old feelings in him, of a person that he has zero interest in being again.
And he is trying to save you that pain, because you really do inflict a lot of it on yourself....
