Jp you are all over the place and don't listen to anything posted. Beyond frustrating
JP, cover your ears for a minute...
PON,
You of all people know, that while the monsters are playing kickball in your head,(or a hamster wheel), then you will not hear anything until you are ready to hear it....
I think that JP does read everything, although the hard stuff gets skimmed over because it causes him a lot of pain, and it is too close for him to take a look at.
The things that hit home for him, put him outside of his comfort zone, and he pushes it away, as if it is just a bad dream. Hoping that he will awake from it.
It is a normal reaction for some people to do this. It is a protective blanket that they wear. Keeps them nice and cozy warm in their own space.
JP has to decide that he is ready first.
YOU have been there, and you know what it is like...
Tell him what worked for you, and what really helped you be ready to do the work...
