He told you "you are perfect". Read up on DR. Sounds like he is still conflicted, in pain, and still following his script. Do not worry about what he says. Just validate and move on. Keep making your changes that will make you the type of person that he would never want to walk away from.
But make sure your changes will stick and you are not just doing them to win him back or it will backfire.
Thanks Sam. Today we went to therapy and he is still wanting to move forward with making our separation/divorce legal. Shortly thereafter he hugs me, openly cries and tells our therapist and me that he still loves me, reaches over and gently fixes my hair, and then tells me if its ok for his family to still contact me and invite me over to hang out with them. He wants to be so dead set with not coming back, but all his actions shows that he still wants me. I am beyond confused.
However, I am taking stock and will continue forward with my progress. I am most def doing this for myself too. I feels good to do all of these things....I feel like a better me.
