Dear Hopeful, When he says that your changes are too late, take it with a grain of salt. You have 2 little ones and every reason to be sure you don't leave any stone unturned. If you are using DB techniques that is great, but working with a DB coach that can help you come with a very specific plan for your situation can make all the difference in the world. He is giving you mixed messages and you need to know the best way to react and interact with him. It sounds like he is going full steam ahead, and the time for you to do something different is now. Take care and I would look forward to talking to you.
Thanks Karen,
I have had 3 sessions with Amanda so far. She has been amazing and is giving me great advice on what to do in this. This week I continued to employ positive changes and redecorated the house. He was so pleased when he saw the house. He said once again that he wished I had done that when he was still living there. He said he was proud of me.
However, we went to therapy today and he is still saying he wants to move forward with making our separation legal. I agreed but he saw that it pained me. He started to cry and then said "we dont have to do it now though". After our session he then gave me a long, deep hug and whispered in my ear "I will always love you....for the rest of my life".
It feels like we take 1 step forward, but then 2 steps back.
