I've gone from absolutely no communication w/ WAH to cordial texts & some renewed communication in the last few weeks.
I agreed to have him meet us for day trip for D17 bday. He's NEVER asked me one personal question about my life now.
I asked when we could discuss taxes & D17 party & he suggested tomorrow night. No, I won't be home until late. I'm GALing.
So he just asked if he could bring stuff to cook dinner for kids tomorrow while I'm gone. This really throws me off base because I've had a real firm MY house policy since I found out about OW. He has lied to me so much, I've had no trust in him at all.
This is really making me uncomfortable, but I feel I should probably say yes to extend trust? But in light of him never caring about my personal life, it feels like a huge invasion of my privacy! I don't want to cross the lines of being okay with his life with OW or whatever else it entails. I want him to be in our lives again, but I don't envision us being one of those 'come hang out' kind of divorced couples. I'm really reacting to my fear right now.
I don't trust him, I don't trust him with my heart or my privacy - but I want to be able to, he just has taken no steps to build that trust by being so absent with dds and lying so much. Do I leap feet first into trust by having him in my house without me home?
There are lots of experiences here, please help me with opinions! I need to answer him... (kinda panicking here, very unexpected request)
