Just as another note, i just attended my 3rd week at a Mens Al-Anon group meeting to attempt to minimize my codependency issues and reactions to the wife that i "React" to, rather than Respond to.

AITL

Me, 55 W, 36
T, 10 yrs
S-9
M, 8 yrs
1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa
2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa
W, AA relapse early 2009-Current
W moved out 2-16-2012
New OM 5-2012