UF, In some ways - this can be typical WAS spew. When my xw said things similar to ^^^ I was baffled at first because I had never done anything that added any validity to her fears.
You don't have to understand them.. just realize that she has them. For whatever reason..
... and then, continue to prove them wrong. If you truly want to get along like two good parents, then do everything in your power to make that your truth.
Let your actions speak from themselves... and leave it up to your wife to believe them or not.
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
