Time and tide...

[labug]

So 2, could you have responded to her text by saying something like "It's difficult traveling with kids, we were all stressed by then. (I'm mind-reading here because you didn't say what the issue was but I know traveling with kids can be trying)I apologize for sighing and rolling my eyes, that wasn't respectful."

You're bringing up resentments from years ago. If you can't let those things go then you can't have a R with her. You want her to change, chances are she isn't going to so the choices are you figure out how to deal with it or let her go.

But it makes me crazy because it usually affects me and others who are around.
Have you explored ways, even if only in your mind, you could work this out where you both get your needs met?

Because you know this will come up again. We can never find someone who meshes perfectly with us. Being in a successful R means being able to work through problems, and both sides have to give a little.