This from you post above wasn't clear to me, And that if she didn't feel that way, then I am not okay with that and need to adjust.
I was using the analogy that we were both still kind of holding onto each other by remaining friends and hanging out together. If she's (figuratively) holding onto my hand, I told her I don't want her to feel like I'm pulling her down like I did for so long. I want her to feel like she's PULLED UP or LIFTED UP by me. If I'm still pulling her down then I need to create more space. Essentially, if the contact we do have is still too much and is hurting her, then I need to ensure there is even less contact.
Does that make sense? Sorry for the confusion.
Her response at that moment was to shake her head and say she doesn't feel pulled down by me anymore. That was about 30 minutes into that particular talk and she was fairly emotional due to the discussion, but not necessarily that particular comment.
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