Time and tide...

[2thepoint]

Bug - I understand your point about control and patterns. Short of stepping in and applying more control to help her with her "in the moment" crisis, all I can do is observe and try to not let it bother me. But it makes me crazy because it usually affects me and others who are around.

I mentioned in an earlier post about the episode with the basketball tickets that she was certain she had thrown away. She was in a complete tizzy over it. I calmly helped her through the crisis and I eventually found the tickets (after tearing through 3 bags of garbage). So I guess the 180 is to not get caught up in it but it is so difficult. And different situations lend themselves to different reactions and a sense of urgency.

There was a time years ago, when she told me that she prefers me to step in and take charge to get things under control. Guess that's not the case anymore.

Regarding my response to her text (and you should know that I was pretty worked up after the episode but not in her presence beyond what I described ^^^), I said "Don't worry about it. I hope you had a good vacation." She did not respond to that text, although later she invited me over for dinner, but I was already doing something else so I politely declined.