Just catching up on your sitch. I was in full on "ME" zone the past few days. No fun.

You sound good!! I've been doing the same thing, and I plan to see a lawyer in the next few weeks to have all the info I can. It's important. Inforamtion doesn't mean action. Just that we know where we stand.

I am definately looking at my friend/friendliness with my H. I really stepped about 10 steps back this weekend in the detaching, although my H is really playing both sides. He wants to keep the door open to our R, while still being with OW. I know I can't be friends with him right now for my own POM. Good for you for knowing that as well.

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D