JP I suggest you start listening to people like M1 and 25 asap before THEY DETACH from your thread and it will happen. Trust me I lost great support because of my anxiety.
YOU NEED TO GET YOUR ANXIETY IN CHECK NOW..Do not wait to take this advice. You are not listening to people on here. You are reading and not listening. I know because I did it.
1. you need to meditate, yoga, reiki. Something. I suggest Chi Gong breathing because it is something you can do 15 minutes a day and can be done at a conference room at work if needed in a pinch.
2. You do realize if your W decides to goto a swingers party tonight, buy an 8 ball, and have an orgy there is NOTHING you can do about it. Hell my W could do this too. So stop trying to CONTROL the things you can't control. LISTEN TO THIS PART or you will fail. you can only control you.
3. Give your W the password stuff. Let her change it. Do you know how UNHEALTHY it is to monitor your W's stuff. OMG I use to do it and I would drive myself insane. You realize this is ANXIETY. All anxiety is FEAR. When you snoop you trying to get answers. What is the answer you are seeking you ask. Is she cheating. Yes or no. That is what you're seeking. Snooping is a SHORT term fix for your anxiety. TRUST ME ON THIS. You want to send your W further off the cliff that you already pushed her off. Continue to snoop.
JP I suggest you get a grip and start working on yourself asap.
Start with step 1 immediately.
Do you think your W is going to want to stay with some control freak who monitors her 24 x 7? What next an electric dog leash. Seriously man pull it together.
Start to GAL asap. You need to take all focus off your W man. I am seeing all this advice giving to you and a few days later you are spun out. My nickname use to be Nethamster. I know.
Do not make the mistakes I made. LISTEN and act. Google Imago and visit EE.org
I am trying to figure out how to get to EE. I dont have a cc right now and dont know if I can get one, but am trying. Sounds worth the debit. Thank you for your honesty and comments. You are correct, I am reading, but not taking in what is said. Time to force some action.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
