I don't believe for a second that our WA spouses feel any kind of pain, remorse, or guilt. Why should they? They are getting everything they want, no matter who they kick in the gut and hurt.
My W, who might be coming out of the tunnel, has told me that all along, she felt guilt, pain, remorse, etc, but would hide from it in her "activities", but that it always came back around to haunt her...If your H is in the throes of replay, he will not show any of those things, ESPECIALLY to you...but trust that they are there, just band-aided by his activities...
Read what Snodderly and rH wrote to you several times, take some deep breathes and get busy with something...
Hang in there!! T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
