Is there light at the end of the tunnel Part 1?

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More drama for your mama as they say….
So last week, SiL’s BF and I were out and he mentioned of a place he was planning on going too but didn’t. Which W told me she was going to meet him there. So he was pissed that she was using them as excuse. So yesterday W comes to me and says something like… I don’t want there to be confusion but I just came from (sister’s) place and had an argument with her sister and her bf. Apparently, her sister pulled her over and told her they don’t appreciate her using them as a way to lie about her where about. W said I asked SiL’s BF about her night out which I did not. So I made it clear he brought it up as in he was planning on going to such and such place and I said oh you met W there and he said no he did not because he did not go there. She said she is feel tired of fighting and don’t have it in her to fight and she said her relationship with her S is stressed as well (due to her backing me up for volunteering while W wanted to sleep in late from the night out- W said who’d side are you on to her S which is not like her). I told W that it is hard times for everybody and that it [censored] for there to be confusion and misunderstanding. I told her I did not bring it up and was not trying to start anything up. She said it wasn’t my fault. I told her when I asked her how was your night the next day, she said it was fine which I assumed she had gone to the place she said she was going. I did not go any further as I am not trying to be controlling as she already thinks I am. I was trying to show an interest in her life of just asking general questions of how things are or how is work so there is still a line of communication. She said she hasn’t been talking to them about our issues and they feel they are trying to be there for her but she is not coming to them for support.

What I have learned from this is what DBing has said many of time. I need not speak about W and I with her family. Even if they bring it up I should just not say anything about it. She already feels pressured so I am sure this incident will feel more pressure to her.

Earlier that day I did suggested we go to a museum with S since she did not have any plans for him on Sunday. We went and it was nice. We went after the conversation above. When we got home she was trying to get S out the baby seat while holding her bag and I said I can take him out to which she said “I am capable of carrying a bag and getting him out”. On the way there I offered to take him out as well since she is carrying a big bag. I told her my offer to take him out is not because I thought she is not capable of it but because she is carrying a bag. I also told her that goes for other times as well where when I offer help it is not because I think she is can’t do something. She said ok and I saw her face change so I asked if everything is ok. She said ok and saw tears in her eye. I know she hates me seeing her tear and felt she just needed to compose herself so I did not say anything else. The rest of the evening went ok as in small chit chats mostly about S.