Grizz I do feel for you. I went through it. It is difficult. My W use to txt me pictures of the family bunny during the day and then treat me like an a z z 6 hours later. Just remember its on them. She would do the same things to me. Close laptop once I walked in from work. Flip phone over.
For now don't worry about what she is doing on laptop ok. Continue to work on yourself. She might be putting you up to tiny little tests to see how you REACT.
I think my W through every thing at me in a 6 month period after 2nd bomb drop. I did not react ONCE. You're doing a great job not reacting. Do not get baited. Keep doing your work. Keep working on your broken sandbox. You need to clean this up. If your W sees YOU making consistent changes then eventually you would hope she would want to change.
Let me give you a real life example. For years (3 1/2 to be exact). My W blamed me for her anxiety, depression, and nervous breakdowns. You know what she showed me last night. An article describing everything she was going through. You know where she is going tonight? Reiki. (japanese stress reduction using mind healing) My point you ask? I gave my wife space and time to figure out that I was not the reason for her health issues. She has decided finally to try to address them and take the focus off me.
Again I am GLAD this happened to me grizz. I am glad my W threw me out of the house. I am glad my W called me out on how terrible of a H I was. I am glad my W didn't talk to me for 6 months the second time around. She gave me a GIFT. She gave me time to look inward at my flaws and start to correct them. Without this gift I would have never attended EE or discovered that I was an ACOA'r. Grizz use the gift to fix you. NOT for your W for you and your future relationships. Your R with your W as you know is over. Hopefully you can have a NEW one with the new you. Get it?
