Is this cake-eating? 12

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but now stbx is reinforced in his belief that I am an obstructionist, stubborn, win-at-all-costs harpy who is hell-bent on teaching him a lesson. He was SPITTING.

So?

Just because he believes that doesn't make it true! You did what you needed to do. When we do what's right, others who may be affected aren't always happy.

That would be their problem.

NLW, I hope at the end of all this you can come to a place where you no longer feel responsible for the feelings of others.