Thanks

[labug]

Patient Man, you're doing as well as could be expected in this situation. You seem to have a good handle on the mechanics of DBing. The emotions take a lot longer to get a handle on.

Grieving what we've lost is painful but it does get better.

You write about being addicted to your W along with self-medicating with alcohol. What hole are you trying to fill? What pain and anxiety do you have to cover up?

As you quit drinking a while back, I sense that you already have this answer and it's not important that you tell us; the important thing is that you know and are dealing with it.

This from you post above wasn't clear to me, And that if she didn't feel that way, then I am not okay with that and need to adjust.