you sound like you are in a good place subguy....a calm place. I agree that this is about choice, how we choose to live regardless of the external environment.
Hope the tax issue doesn't set you too far back with the motorcycle! :-)
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Hi bustin, thanks for dropping in. I am doing pretty good these days. Once I truly realized that my wife is in a crisis and her actions are about her feelings not so much an indicator of who I am. I will continue to try and be a better me and this will be a lifelong journey. Funny how I would work to make myself a better employee by reading tech. manuals and brushing up on my electronic knowledge but when it came to me or my marriage I for some reason thought it would all just work out (as if magical forces were at play). Hoping the marriage ferries would come and sprinkle happy dust on us lol.
Tomorrow is our 23rd anniversary and... that typical thought is should I or should I not acknowledge it. I am leaning towards a short text along the lines of "I hope you have a nice day", thats it, told you it was short. Anyway, thoughts on this is appreciated.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
some reason thought it would all just work out (as if magical forces were at play). Hoping the marriage ferries would come and sprinkle happy dust on us lol.
True for most of us I would guess.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Well, our anniversary came and went, not a word from my W. I sent a short text that said "I hope you had a good day". I did not expect an answer, it still stings just a tad, but hay what can I do? She still talks divorce but has not yet filed.
One day closer to my Harley lol, I have my eye on a 2009 model now, think I will go down and talk to the shop and see what I can haggle them down to. Oh, Alaska is still in play as well...
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
Hi bustin, thanks for dropping in. I am doing pretty good these days. Once I truly realized that my wife is in a crisis and her actions are about her feelings not so much an indicator of who I am. I will continue to try and be a better me and this will be a lifelong journey.
Our wedding anniversary was last month, blarg! HUGS!!
Ah, truly realizing that our spouses are in crisis and that this isn't about us...soooooo hard some days.
You sound so great!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
Well, not much to update on, we are still no contact. This is not necessarily my decision but it is my W's decision. I have in the past sent a quick text asking how she was doing and she would not respond, so... I am giving her/me space.
Interesting that my W does not talk to her brothers and will not return their phone calls. She does however talk with her sisters. Her brothers keep asking me why; lol like I know why. Her oldest brother was my best friend in high school and we still hang out together. I wonder if I should back off the relationship with them? I however like being with them and like talking/hanging with them.
I am confused as to why she keeps threatening D but will not actually file. I wonder if she is waiting for me to do it? I feel like she should do the hard work of filing if she wants it. I also feel myself caring less and less about getting back together, not necessarily a lack of caring but okay with moving on in a different direction. I do not feel the tug of having to be with her, now it's more of a sadness for the loss of my family.
The Harley is real close, I went to a dealer and almost purchased one. I want to go to another dealer as they have a 2011 model that is till new and comes with the warranty for about 3k less.
Headed to Pittsburgh for work this week. A high of 39 and snow, uugghh I am so ready for warm weather. For my Northern friends laugh all you want I like it hot .
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
I did not see your post Ruby and T thanks for the hugs and support. One less, "first time were not doing something together" thing lol, how many more to go?
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
I did not see your post Ruby and T thanks for the hugs and support. One less, "first time were not doing something together" thing lol, how many more to go?
A crap load dude, a crap load. But know this, the new stuff you do, on your own, or with kids, is very sweet.
Everytime you do these things, it completes you a little more. I'm not saying the hole goes away completely, but that is why GAL is so important...
