TheUF - Changing gears - Dropping the rope?

[theUF]

So, I could use someones take on the recent events.

On last activity the three of us had, Ex was acting somewhat usual;

Expressing how great her life is.
Asking if I notice her good shape(i.e what? don't you look at me?)
Some touching and teasing, but no "reaching out".

I doubt everything could be THAT fine and dandy.

So we have a nice time, and after we stop to discuss arrangements with S, which this time proved to be a bit difficult. I wanted to exchange days, but she said I would lose the days in that case as she was not willing to lose days herself. I said I'll miss him, but fair enough.

But, then her eyes started wetting and she seemed to struggle with keeping the tears in. Finally she broke, and started crying. I asked her what was wrong and to sum it up;
She struggled a bit economically, and spends little time with S due to work.
She felt she agreed to everything and was afraid to do otherwise.
I said we already have disagreed on several points and asked why on earth she was afraid to disagree.
She said she believed I would make her life miserable if not(if she didn't agree when I wanted more time with S or exchange days).

I was floored, stunned, baffled and a bit hurt. I can't believe she would think that. It hasn't crossed my mind.

I said "I really hope we get along b/c we respect each other, not out of fear. I will not be run over/disrespected/bullied, but of course I won't ruin your life b/c we disagree. To be honest I'm floored and not sure what to believe. I don't believe I have done anything to make you feel this way, and I really hope I haven't. I can't say anything other than this; I'm not playing some kind of game here, and I truly want us to get along like two good parents who wants the best for their child. "
I symphatized with her economical struggle and time away from S.

IDK what to make of this. The Q's going through my head is, Is this her way of testing me/temp checking/or does she really feel this way? It just took me a bit by surprise, as things often does with the WAS.