Surprisingly stbx turned up too, although he had a L representing him and had indicated on his application that he wasn't attending.
I was sitting there for about 15mins listening to all the other couples having their D's rubber-stamped and feeling like total sh_t. I hadn't realised it was all done in such a public manner.
Then in stbx walked (late as usual) and sat one seat away from me to the side - while his L went to the opposite side of the room.
Long story short, Judge said she wasn't convinced that appropriate arrangements had been made for our children. STBX admitted that he had stopped all CS payments because he had been advised he was "paying far more than he had to".
J asked me what I wanted to do - allow the D to go ahead, and she could register her concern about child support on a note on the approved application, OR I could ask for an adjournment, so that something could be worked out about CS payments.
I didn't know what to do, so hesitated. STBX stood up again and said if this was the only problem in slowing things down, he'd agree to reinstate CS payment. Judge advised me that she had no power to enforce this and suggested I might be better off with an adjournment.
So, I said adjourn (back in court in just over a month and not D-ed).
STBX just about exploded.
As we walked out he hissed at me "That was APPALLING", and strode away.
As I thought, the court process is going to make things between us almost impossible.
Any advice/comments? He's going to see that as me just trying to stop the D from happening. I truly didn't go there with any thought of stopping the inevitable, but surely if the J expressed concern about arrangements for the kids, I needed to do what I did????
