I'm beyond happy that you had a lovely anniversary. Sometimes we do need to take matters into our own hands and make things happen, not wait for them to happen.
I completely understand what you were saying in your post about telling your H you were upset about your anniversay.
In pre-MLC times, my H would ask me what was wrong (due to my pouting and silent treatment, something I've had to work on), and when I would tell him, he would get mad. Over time, it turned into me not telling him what was bothering me, I would just let things stew and resentment build. It was definitely a lose-lose situation.
If we ever make it through this, communication is definitely going to need to be addressed!
I wonder though if its not what we're saying, but how we say it that puts them on the defensive. I hope one day I can actually practice some of these skills in a normal conversation with a non- alien H!
Anyway...
Happy anniversay my dear. You have stood by your H in his darkest hour, and someday he will realize what a gift you are
Very glad to be reading your updates again, I've missed you
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
