Help & Advice needed please Thread 2

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Thank you trying - I really appreciate your comments. You are right I am having trouble detaching which leads me to constantly mind read.

Having said that the GAL is going well and I'm certainly doing a decent job of acting "as if".

The OM has damaged me without a doubt, especially when she stealing everyone how good and special he makes her feel etc. it had knocked my confidence badly.

The whole divorce saga was strange - and it happened before my dad passed away. In face when my dad died she was colder than ever towards me.

Basically, 3 weeks after she left she went to see a L and filed for divorce. I asked her under what grounds (there's only a few in the UK) she told me she was divorcing me for "unreasonable behaviour" I told her that I would not sign that and that I deserved more.

She turned up at the house the next day and told me she had stopped her L filing and I should file against her - she told me to file for unreasonable behaviour as its seen as the quickest route to D. I agreed to doing this and contacted my L.

The next night she turns up and says we shouldn't bother doing it, and just be legally seperated for 2 years - in the UK if you're legally seperated for 2 years you don't have to blame anyone. Her reason for this was "it just means no one has to be blamed".

It was all very odd, and I still don't really understand what it all meant.